You may have heard that you should say "best wishes" to a bride and "congratulations" to a groom. It is an old etiquette rule, and today most people don't follow it. Here is where it came from and what to write instead.
Article contents
- Where the Tradition Comes From
- What People Say Today
- Wedding Card Messages That Use "Best Wishes"
- Wedding Card Messages That Use "Congratulations"
- Frequently Asked Questions
Where the Tradition Comes From
Older etiquette guides said that congratulating a bride suggested she had worked hard to "catch" a husband, which was considered rude. Wishing her well was seen as more polite. Congratulating the groom was fine, because he was thought to have won the prize.
What People Say Today
Today, saying "congratulations" to a bride is widely accepted. Most people say congratulations to both partners, and many cards use both phrases. "Best wishes" still works well in a formal card or when you don't know the couple well.
Wedding Card Messages That Use "Best Wishes"
- Best wishes to you both on your wedding day.
- With best wishes for a long and happy marriage.
- Best wishes as you start your new life together.
- Sending our best wishes to the bride and groom.
- Best wishes today and in all the years ahead.
Wedding Card Messages That Use "Congratulations"
- Congratulations to you both!
- Congratulations on the wedding. You two looked so happy today.
- Congratulations to the newlyweds, and cheers to the life you are building.
- Warmest congratulations on your wedding day.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is it rude to say congratulations to the bride?
Not today. The old rule is rarely followed, and most brides are happy to hear it.
Is "best wishes" a good way to sign a wedding card?
Yes. "Best wishes" is a warm, safe sign-off for a wedding card, especially if you don't know the couple well.
What else can I write in a wedding card?
See our full list of wedding wishes for friends, family, coworkers and more.
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